Abusive fathers in international cases deliberately sever the Mother-Child bond through what is called “The Hague Convention Treaty”. First the abusive father allows the mother and their child(ren) to depart to the country of origin of the mother. Once the mom and the kid(s) arrive, the abusive father then accuses the mother of parental abduction and takes the case to court according to the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.
The Hague Convention promptly deports all children back to the father’s country (often with brute force) because the treaty mandates that this is where any custody disputes must be resolved. The Hague Convention does not look at domestic violence and child abuse when deporting children back, which they actually should, according to Article 13b in that Treaty. The mother is then suddenly made out to be a child abductor and will get arrested (for up to nine years) upon crossing the border when they attempt to follow their children.
The international organisation GlobalARRK that fights for rights of Protective Mothers and their children has concluded that only 1% of Protective Mothers is allowed to return to their country of origin with their children. We can therefore conclude that The Hague Convention Treaty has become a Fathers’ Rights deportation treaty.
Here are some Hague cases:
LOS ANGELES, APRIL 2014
On April 11th 2014, I stood confused in front of the Federal Court of Los Angeles, as I was being accused by my husband that I retained our children in the US against his consent.
Special needs toddler twin boys legally kidnapped from California to Italy by their absent father.
It’s been 10 long months since I’ve seen or held my 2 years and 7 months old twins; their father has not allowed me or their maternal grandparents to have any contact with them. No Skype and no phone calls. From one day to the next; I was taken from my boys’ life and a state judge handed these precious special needs boys to a stranger (their father, who had walked away from their lives by choice). I never thought I would be separated from them. My boys have been legally kidnapped and are being retained and the boys’ right to have a relationship with both parents is being completely disregarded. They have been ripped away from their mother’s loving arms, their Grandparents, Uncle, friends, their therapies and everything they had ever know. I never knew that babies could be taken from their mother’s arms especially since I had been their primary care taker. My husband was in and out of their life by choice and always knew of the boys’ whereabouts.
My husband and my plan from day one were to move to the U.S. I was hospitalized in Italy and was not allowed to fly to the U.S. while pregnant because the doctor refused to sign my flight certificate. I was even hospitalized against my will even though my pregnancy had been healthy.
Our marriage had been rocky since the birth of our twins. My husband began to threaten to disappear with the boys if I continued to breastfeed our boys and if I didn’t do as he said. I still believed that the move to California would help get back to a good place in our marriage since we would have help from my family.
When the boys were 4 months we got one way tickets to California. We packed our belongings. We had already bought and shipped cribs, high chairs, swings, stroller, and toys to my residence in California. We never purchased any of those things in Italy because our plan had always been to move to California. The four of us flew back together.
After trying to work on our marriage for more than six month, one day he decided to leave our residence. At that point he closed our bank account. I was a stay at home mom and he was our means of support. I ended up having to go back to work part time so that I could still be at home with our babies.
At the boys’ one year doctor’s appointment I discussed some of my concerns in their development as they were not reaching their milestones. After an assessment by specialists I was told that one of the twins had cerebral palsy and the other was autistic. The boys right away began early-start therapy. They were being seen by therapists 3 days out of the week. My husband had completely disappeared and we had no communication; he was still in the U.S. but had not contacted us not even for the boys’ 1 year birthday.
News got back to me that my husband was hiring an attorney to divorce me so I ended up hiring an attorney I served him with divorce papers and in return he filled a false Hague convention case against me. I had never retained nor abducted our children.
Unfortunately I didn’t have the means to hire a competent attorney while he had DA and a law firm on his side. The Judge said that he was not familiar with The Hague Convention and that he would have to research on The Hague Convention on Child abduction, he also said he would get guidance from the district attorney (since the DA was there as a “friend of the court”).
During day 1 of The Hague trial my attorney convinced me to try and reconcile with my husband because our children would be sent back to Italy with my husband I became so scared that I agreed. My witnesses, who included the boys’ therapist, were not even given the opportunity to testify.
After a trial period my husband hired another attorney, and pursued The Hague case against me, I no longer had an attorney. I pleaded to the Judge to give me an extension to retain another attorney my request was denied and a trial date was set. I was able to retain attorney with borrowed money to appear for the second day of trial; none of my witnesses could attend.
The Judge orders came via email and I was told I needed to hand over my boys to their father because they were going to be sent back to Italy. My attorney was trying to work with his and the D.A. in order to set a right of access so that I would be allowed to communicate with my boys but we were told instead that if I didn’t return the boys immediately the D.A. would issue a warrant for my arrest. I ended up having to hand over my babies to their father.
From the day I handed them over I have not had any contact with my babies.
French woman used as baby oven for an old American man!
I had briefly known my future husband A. as an acquaintance when I lived in the Bay Area in 1996. A decade later, having long ago returned to my home in Paris, we began a romantic correspondence and a plan to start a family. I wanted to adopt a Cambodian child; he wanted his own biological child. I was 39, and he was 58. Being in love, I agreed to a fertility test upon his insistence when he visited me in April 2007.
Because we agreed to be a family, I quit my job in Paris and moved to California. According to court documents, soon after I arrived, and unbeknownst to me, A. realized that he had made “a terrible mistake” to become involved with me. He did not want to be a husband, at least to me.Yet, he impregnated me anyway.
Recognizing his deficits, I returned pregnant to France, where I gave birth to our daughter, SCP. A., having consulted with an attorney, “wooed me” (his words) and married me only to get “his” child, to bring her back to USA.My daughter spent her first year alone with me in Paris. Her father applied to DHS for us to join him, including signing (a document) stipulating his continued support, even despite divorce.We joined him in the USA March 4, 2009. A year later, I was shocked to be presented at the door with divorce papers. This is considered a sham marriage. I was not allowed to make child rearing, financial, or homemaking decisions. SCP was forced to attend preschool, despite my being the primary care caregiver, and despite SCP’s aggressive resistance.She was sent to therapy at 3 years of age.In 3 years, I went from 100% custody, to 50%, to 13% to practically zero. No doubt this was the plan all along. I lost spousal support, and thus my home, job, my health, and now my daughter. A. had assets to liquidate to pay for attorneys, mediators, and therapists. It was an unfair and unethical fight, damaging our daughter.SCP, at 7, is in weekly therapy for the transitions forced upon her. She may not make any of her own decisions, including talking to me (limited to 10 minutes), or seeing her friends. She has no privacy or independence.
SCP has no American family as A. controls and is possessive of her, and has alienated his own relatives. She is a French citizen, not allowed to visit the country of her birth.
Two girls scared for life by the kidnapping of their father.
In May of 1998 I married in the United States to an US Citizen man.
The legal and emotional abuse my children and myself were subjected to has
Two US boys retained in Panama against their mom’s consent.
I am a 46 year old mother who was born in Florida and raised in NC and Texas.
They have not been given the opportunity to speak with a judge, guardian ad litem or social worker in almost 3 years to discuss their needs and preferences.
I love and miss my children so much and you cannot imagine the agony of being separated from them due to no fault of their own and my own naivity of international laws.
Dutch/ French Child taken to the Middle East by the father.
Father didn’t want child and broke up with mother during pregnancy. They got back together and lived in The Netherlands (mother Dutch, father French) with their son for eight years. Then moved to the Middle East for father’s job in 2013. Mother gave up a good job in the Netherlands to join.